Are you OVER communicating?
“Several years ago, I was having an conversation with someone at Brains on Fire and frankly, I was struggling with expressing my thoughts and ideas. My very bright co-worker, who was on the other end of this struggle, said something to me that changed my world.
“You know what your problem is Robbin? You tend to over communicate.”
There is great advice in Robbin’s blog post. The most important thing I took from the article was the first technique – “Sleep on it.”
Just the other day, I was frustrated with someone who had failed (multiple times) to keep a promise. When I get angry, sad or frustrated I can express my thoughts and feelings best through writing. So, I opened my Notes app and started typing out a message to my friend explaining my frustration. Instead of sending the message right away, I decided to put down my phone and sleep on it for a day. If I still felt the need to express how I felt in 24 hours, I would send the message.
I already felt a sense of relief from putting my feelings on paper, and the next day my friend reached out to me and took a step toward keeping their commitment.
Getting better at communicating is a never-ending personal and professional journey, and it’s great to run across little reminders like this blog post when I need it most.